IT’s better than the film…

Books and movies are like apples and oranges. Both are fruit, but taste completely different. – Stephen King.

And linking nicely to that quote, I recently finished Stephen King’s masterpiece IT. Though it’s common knowledge that it is one heck of a long novel, it is difficult to imagine that much is left out of the film given that that it also very long. But lo and behold, some crucial parts are missing from the film adaptation.

As a bookworm, this is a feeling I’m often left with once seeing an adaption. Finishing IT motivated me to write about this nuisance.

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Obvious, but important, things I learned from cognitive-behavioural therapy

After suffering on my own with anxiety and depression for about 5 years, last year I finally got forced to get some professional help. A CBT therapist is what I was handed. Sadly, the sessions did not cure me. But they have helped me to realise when I am being ridiculously irrational, resulting in better quality days.

I felt it was the right thing to do to share what I found most helpful, because most people really do suffer this alone.

  1. most worries are hypothetical
    Whenever you’re worried about something, find the root of the specific thing you’re worried about. Start your thought with “I’m worried that” and see what the answer is. Most of the time it’ll be something in the future that may or may not happen.
    “I’m worried that I’ll fail my exam.” – why waste time worrying about something that could happen? Turn that worry into revising for that exam etc.
    And if your worry IS a current one, make sure you do what you need to do NOW, so no more time is wasted worrying about it.
  2. you’re not the most important thing in everybody else’s life
    This sounds strange at first but it’s very important you realise this. I used to worry about going to the checkout in stores incase I dropped change, or had to ask them to repeat the price etc. etc. I thought they’d scrutinise me, if not with words, with their facial expression.
    But in the real world that person on the till is actually bored out of their tits doing their tedious job. They won’t remember you dropping 50p in 2 minutes time, never mind in 2 years time. Your ‘mistakes’ are no big deal to others, they probably won’t even notice. And they most certainly won’t give a shit.
  3. you have absolutely 0% control over what happens
    Metaphorically and literally, you can’t control the weather. I used to get horrendously agitated if I went out and it started to rain. I’d find myself  blaming myself for going out at that specific time. Fuck sake izzy you should have KNOWN it was gonna rain…
    …Why should I have known that? You never have full control over things, so never beat yourself up about things like that.
  4. if something increases your anxiety levels, FUCKIN’ DO IT
    Yes, another strange one. In therapy I was introduced to the idea of ‘habituation’ – that is, the more frequently you’re exposed to a situation, the quicker your anxiety levels will decrease permanently when doing that activity or whatever it is.
    The more times you walk up to the counter and drop your 50p without sudden death, the sooner you’ll realise sudden death is a ridiculous prediction in the first place.
  5. new things will not kill you (if you try new things within reason)
    If you’re anything like me, the idea of trying new things is the worst thing in the world. I’d avoid it at all cost. Now I only avoid it a bit……
    At the end of the day, if you don’t like the new thing, just stop doing the new thing. You aren’t going to be trapped forever doing cycling or attending a society meeting at uni. Just leave. Walk away. And like your grandparents always said to you, ‘you don’t know until you try.’ (Annoyingly, they were right this time. Unlike when they said wet hair gives you a cold…)

 

So, with all that in mind. Go out and seize the day/night, little ones. Only you can help you. ♥

“…but don’t forget the songs that saved your life…”

Now Playing: Rubber Ring – The Smiths

Everyone has that one thing don’t they? That girl at school with the weird horse obsession. The guy who just loved cars (started compensating at an early age?).

What’s my thing, you ask? Music. Or perhaps more specifically, men who are mentally disturbed. Fall Out Boy quite recently sang about how you are what you love. I guess that makes me a montage of heck clinically depressed but life-changing musicians.

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Book Review: ‘The Artificial Silk Girl’ – Irmgard Keun

Translated by Kathie von Ankum from the German original, this short novel should be deemed a masterpiece in 20th century literature. However, due to Nazi censorship it was sadly almost forgotten about.

A revival of the novel came about at the turn of the century, and after reading it I can understand why.

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Give Peas A Chance

As an animal lover, giving up meat was something that I always inspired to do. As a child I told my vegetarian mum I wanted to do it twice, and both times I caved in. Last summer I decided to seriously quit beating that meat, and I feel finger lickin’ good because of it…

The sudden rise in the promotion of veganism on social media influenced me to write about just why turning veggie has made me feel better.

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3pm mayhem, and where to miss it.

DISCLAIMER: I write this post pretending that I do not watch streams of football matches at any time of the day, as that is illegal highly frowned upon.

Any fan of the soon to be Cadburys Premier League will know the heartbreak of seeing the announcement of which monthly fixtures will be televised, and not seeing their beloved side playing against West Bromwich Albion being on the big screen. (Sorry WBA fans, just a good example innit).

But why exactly do Sky and BT not show these 3pm matches?

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Peter Hook & The Light – Gig Review

Time and Place: 3rd March 2017, Liverpool o2 Academy.

Going on tour without the rest of the band (of the rest of the band…?) to perform the both of the bands’ Greatest Hits sounds like an odd decision, but one that ‘Hooky’ certainly pulled off.

(I sound suspicious, but I did always have…True Faith in him performing…)

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The Lion, The Heteronormativity and The Wardrobe.

Now Playing: Girls & Boys – Blur

In a society that claims so much to be accepting and over it, a heck of a lot of people still feel the need to come out the closet. Izzy sagt nein.

Yes, LGBT rights have come far enough for most people to be accepted by family and friends once they come out. But why stop there? Demand more. Sons should bring back other father’s sons to their father without a warning, just like it’s another father’s daughter.

Coming out is what heteronormativity feeds off. If those of the LGBT community treat that part of their identity as something that needs to be announced to people, then how can you expect straight, cis people to stop acting like they are the ‘norm’ and you are the ‘other’?

It is of course understandable that given past/current treatment of gays in many parts of the world, that anybody would be at least a little nervous to tell their family. But think about it. Your friend says to you “oh, I’ve got something I need to tell you…” – your mind goes haywire right? What the fuck have they done? Am I going to be mad?

“…I’ve broken your vase, sorry.”

“…I looked in your diary, I couldn’t resist, sorry.”

“…the dog has died, sorry.”

When such announcements are made, an apology always follows. You are not apologising for your identity. Treating your own sexuality or gender in such a way makes you vulnerable; people will be led to think that you yourself are uncomfortable with it (which you may be, but only because of societal expectations).

No doubt, coming out is better than hiding in the wardrobe (what the fuck is a closet?), but don’t tolerate people’s naive assumptions of your heterosexuality. It’s sooo gay.

You may have come out of your cage and be doing just fine, but it’s time to get rid of the cage.